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Pressed but not Crushed

Imagine being in a throng, squeezed into a room with many you do not know.  People are pressing from every side and you move to try to relieve the pressure.  They just keep coming.  No matter which angle you move your body, no matter where you turn, there is a crush weighing in on you.  You look from side to side, trying to find an escape.  The air is getting hot and clammy; you need to get out or you will lose your mind.  Still turning, looking for a way of escape, you see someone across the room that you know.  Here is your way out.  You know your friend can help you.  There is confidence now.  You can wait a little longer because you know your friend is there and will get you free.

The crowd begins to part and there stands your friend.  You take his hand and he leads the way through the press, out into the open.  You breathe deep of the clean, fresh air.  Your mind begins to clear and you have a peace.  He came through for you again; why did you even doubt?

Friend, I have found myself in this place many times.  A place that seems everywhere I turn there is a crush, a feeling of defeat.  I have been in a literal crush of people, escaping a natural disaster, and it was a terrible feeling.  But I have found myself in a mental tug of war, a mental crush many more times than I can count.  The Bible says that we have an enemy and he is trying to destroy.  What better way than to overtake our minds with sorrow and shame?

On these occasions that I find myself crowded with hurts and pressure, I tend to forget my friend who has brought me out of every trial.  Why do I even doubt?  When the pressure is mounting and I can’t see the escape, it is hard to relax and let go of my control.

I want to stay in control of every situation.  To relinquish control means that I am weak.  Guess what?  I AM weak!  I couldn’t escape the terror by night or the enemy by day if it weren’t for my friend!

I have recently had financial stress; and it has been VERY hard.  I have also had problems in my body for which I will have surgery.  After the surgery they will biopsy.  How scary is that?  I have three teens, I home school my children, every way I turn I seem to hit an obstacle.  I have prayed and cried and begged and blubbered.  It looks to no avail.  I have sat in my prayer closet and asked, “Where are you, God?  Why?”  But through all of this, I still held on to the faith that no matter what, God is still in control.  Why do we go through the fire?  To come out as gold.  Every person on earth goes through trials, whether they believe there is a God or not.  I  want to  have someone I can lean on in these trials.  I would not want to go through these things believing there is no God, for God alone can save me! Yes, I am weak and I need a supernatural being to help me through life.

As I have pondered on God’s Word, I remembered a verse that sums up my thoughts.  I looked it up, and the meaning of the words.  It is a beautiful summary.  This verse tells me God knows where I am and He hears me when I call.  It may not be an immediate response, but He will help.

II Corinthians 4:8-9

We are troubled on every side, yet not distressed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; Persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not destroyed;

troubled-to crowd, afflict, throng, suffer tribulation

distressed-to hem in closely, cramp

perplexed-to have no way out, be at a loss mentally, doubt

despair-to be utterly at a loss

persecuted-press toward, to pursue

forsaken-leave, desert

cast down-fall

destroyed-die, perish, lose

Even in the throng, the pressure, the doubt; we are not left to die.  Jesus will pick us up and dust us off and tell us to run…keep running.  The race is not to the swift, but to those who endure to the end.

Keep running!

 
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Just when I thought I could breathe a little…Matt, next in line learning to drive!

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Easy Chicken Alfredo

4 leg quarters, boiled and deboned (save the broth)

1 can cream of mushroom soup

2 cans chicken broth

1 cup shredded cheddar cheese

1/4 cup parmesan cheese

 

Mix soup, broth, and cheeses until smooth.  Salt and pepper to taste.  Add chicken and serve over thick noodles of your choice.  So easy and quick!  Tastes great!  This fed four of us without a drop left.

 
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Posted by on October 22, 2012 in Recipes

 

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A New Season

Fall is such a beautiful time of year.  The leaves are changing to hues of orange and red, and the animals are getting ready for the winter months.  Funny I should experience my new season of life at this time.  It feels as though I am getting ready for the hard, cold facts of an ever changing life.  For eighteen years, I have reared children.  My youngest is 13, middle is 14, and then there is my oldest.  I have been preparing my children to grow into adulthood and become independent.  I have prided myself in the fact that my children can do things on their own.  Then it hit me, from out of nowhere, like a slap in the face.  My 18 year old daughter moved out.

Whoa!  Where did that come from?  I spent all these years preparing her for this time, but neglected to prepare myself.  What a terrible feeling.  First, is the realization that I am old enough to have a child old enough to move away.  Second, is the icy cold feeling of fear.  What will she do? Who will make her pick up her things?  Why now?  So many questions and so many fears.  I wish I had prepared myself while teaching her.

I had to pray and ask God for peace and wisdom.  I needed the wisdom so that I could help others prepare themselves for this inevitable life change.  As you teach your children independence, learn to be independent of them.  Without my children, I felt like I was nobody.  My whole life revolved around them.  Don’t let your life revolve around your children.  You are an individual person, besides motherhood, that needs to be independent of the name of “Mother.”  Your children will be fine without you for a little while.  Don’t stress.  Leave them in God’s hands and make time for yourself and for your husband.  He needs you as well, and when your childen are grown and gone, it will be just you and he…what will you do then?  Make a life seperate from your children.

Don’t tell them everything.  When I was on the phone, my children always asked, “Who was that, momma?”  Actually, it really is none of their business.  Don’t feel guilty, although it seems the moment you conceive, you live a life full of guilt-until death do it part.  Your children should respect you and your privacy.  If they grow up hearing and knowing everything about you, they will not respect the privacy of others.  It will be a hard lesson for them to learn.

Love your children through thick and thin, but also allow them to learn.  Never bail them out.  Your children must learn that with everything there is responsibility.  If they break something, they are responsible to replace it.  If they mess up, they must bear the consequences.  Yes, we can show them mercy, as God showed us mercy, but there are still consequences.  Jesus died so that we could have forgiveness for sins, but we still suffer the effects of our sinfulness, the consequences.  If you always bail them out, they will be very irresponsible adults.

It is so hard to see them grow up and move away, but it is also very rewarding when you know you have done everything to help them become responsible, independent citizens.  No, you won’t be perfect, there are no perfect parents, but you can sure try!  I have gleaned so much from my own parenting experiences and from others.  I hope I can help others be prepared for what lies ahead.  I wish someone would have prepared me…I spent a few weeks crying, when it could have been such a joyful transformation.

 
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Posted by on October 18, 2012 in Learning through Life

 

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Tomato and Chicken Bruschetta

  Ingredients:

1 loaf French Bread

1 fresh tomato, sliced thin

1 small onion

1/2 bellpepper, sliced thin

1/4 cup Mozzarella cheese

1 T garlic ( I use the garlic in a jar)

1 boneless, skinless chicken breast

Directions:

Sprinkle seasonings of your choice on chicken and bake, covered, until done.  Rosemary is good on the chicken in this recipe.  While chicken is baking, spray skillet with non-stick cooking spray and saute’ onion, bellpepper, and garlic until crisp-tender.  Slice french bread in half length wise.  Spray with butter flavored cooking spray and layer tomato then onions and peppers.  Sprinkle with salt and pepper and basil.  Sprinkle the cheese on top.  Bake at 350 for about 8-10minutes.  Pull chicken apart and layer on top of cheese and enjoy!

 

 
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Posted by on May 16, 2012 in Recipes

 

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Choose Your Battles

“Choose your battles.”  This is what I heard on the radio when my children were young.  Listening to Dr. Dobson every morning, I tried to learn the good parenting techniques.  This particular lesson hit home when my then 8 year old son wanted a mohawk.  My mind screamed, “Are you crazy?!”  Then I remembered the insightful words, “Choose your battles.”  Having a mohawk was certainly not a Heaven or Hell issue, so why would I lay down a law only to give my child reason for rebellion?

I cut my sons hair and left it a little longer on top.  We spiked it into a mohawk.  It was really cute!  We headed to church, mohawk and all.  Matthew was ready to show off his new doo!  The closer we got to church, the more nervous he became.  “What if they laugh at me, Momma?”  “If they do, I will take care of them.”  I replied.  I was still on his side and he needed that reassurance.  As we pulled into the parking lot, I told him again, “No one is going to think anything of it, but if they do, they have the problem.”  When I parked the car, Matthew jumped out and ran for the bathroom.  He smoothed down the hair so it wasn’t a mohawk.  He wanted it cut right as soon as we got back home.

Matthew has never wanted another mohawk.  That conviction was his own and not Momma’s.  Sometimes we must allow our children to experience their own convictions.  If I would have refused to allow my son this experience, he may have ended up with a very rebellious heart and a permanent mohawk!  I would rather have an eight year old learn this lesson than a stubborn teen who may do it for spite because he was never allowed.

This does not mean we let our childen do everything they want.  We must still have limitations and boundaries.  There are many things that can harm our children for life, but a mohawk certainly isn’t one of them!  Never allow drugs or alcohol, bad influences or the wrong kinds of friends.  These can harm your children.  There are many things that they can learn and grow on that does not have to be a battle or a war.  Be prepared, there are many battles, but you, as the parent, get to choose which ones you need to fight.

Let us fight the good fight and keep the faith!

 
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Posted by on May 12, 2012 in Learning through Life

 
 

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