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A New Season

Fall is such a beautiful time of year.  The leaves are changing to hues of orange and red, and the animals are getting ready for the winter months.  Funny I should experience my new season of life at this time.  It feels as though I am getting ready for the hard, cold facts of an ever changing life.  For eighteen years, I have reared children.  My youngest is 13, middle is 14, and then there is my oldest.  I have been preparing my children to grow into adulthood and become independent.  I have prided myself in the fact that my children can do things on their own.  Then it hit me, from out of nowhere, like a slap in the face.  My 18 year old daughter moved out.

Whoa!  Where did that come from?  I spent all these years preparing her for this time, but neglected to prepare myself.  What a terrible feeling.  First, is the realization that I am old enough to have a child old enough to move away.  Second, is the icy cold feeling of fear.  What will she do? Who will make her pick up her things?  Why now?  So many questions and so many fears.  I wish I had prepared myself while teaching her.

I had to pray and ask God for peace and wisdom.  I needed the wisdom so that I could help others prepare themselves for this inevitable life change.  As you teach your children independence, learn to be independent of them.  Without my children, I felt like I was nobody.  My whole life revolved around them.  Don’t let your life revolve around your children.  You are an individual person, besides motherhood, that needs to be independent of the name of “Mother.”  Your children will be fine without you for a little while.  Don’t stress.  Leave them in God’s hands and make time for yourself and for your husband.  He needs you as well, and when your childen are grown and gone, it will be just you and he…what will you do then?  Make a life seperate from your children.

Don’t tell them everything.  When I was on the phone, my children always asked, “Who was that, momma?”  Actually, it really is none of their business.  Don’t feel guilty, although it seems the moment you conceive, you live a life full of guilt-until death do it part.  Your children should respect you and your privacy.  If they grow up hearing and knowing everything about you, they will not respect the privacy of others.  It will be a hard lesson for them to learn.

Love your children through thick and thin, but also allow them to learn.  Never bail them out.  Your children must learn that with everything there is responsibility.  If they break something, they are responsible to replace it.  If they mess up, they must bear the consequences.  Yes, we can show them mercy, as God showed us mercy, but there are still consequences.  Jesus died so that we could have forgiveness for sins, but we still suffer the effects of our sinfulness, the consequences.  If you always bail them out, they will be very irresponsible adults.

It is so hard to see them grow up and move away, but it is also very rewarding when you know you have done everything to help them become responsible, independent citizens.  No, you won’t be perfect, there are no perfect parents, but you can sure try!  I have gleaned so much from my own parenting experiences and from others.  I hope I can help others be prepared for what lies ahead.  I wish someone would have prepared me…I spent a few weeks crying, when it could have been such a joyful transformation.

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Posted by on October 18, 2012 in Learning through Life

 

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Watch Your Back!

It’s 6 am and the alarm is resonating in my head. I roll over and slap the offensive noise maker and the constant beeping is crippled. That is when I realize, someone is watching me. When I drop my children off at school and begin the work day, someone is watching me. A chill eases down my spine. I have to watch my back because there is someone out there watching my every move. I must be careful. As my family gathers at the supper table, someone is peering through my soul. There are eyes and ears everywhere, watching and listening, waiting for my response. What will I do? Will I slap the alarm clock too hard? Will I lose patience with my children? Will I gossip at the supper table? I am a mother and there are many people learning from my life. How will my life impact those around me? Can you relate? It seems that every mistake is noticed, but what about the good? Will my children grow to be responsible adults who love God?

Proverbs 31 is a great place to start when you must live your life out loud. King Lemuel’s mother was a very wise woman. She taught him everything he needed to choose his soul mate. You can be the ultimate soul mate for your husband and the ultimate mother for your children! Of course, you will make mistakes, but that is what repentance is for-to turn around and do better.

Read Proverbs 31: 10 What are your thoughts on this verse?

A virtuous woman is hard to find, but when she is found, she is a treasure far above the price of rubies. A ruby is hard to find, therefore it is worth a good deal. The ruby also goes through a heating process to be purified. How many trials have you had to endure to get you where you are? The intense pressure and heat is to shape you and purify you so you can be of great value to your family. How do you become this woman of great price? Keep reading, the answers are in the Word.

Read verse 11 Does your husband trust you with his heart?

The word spoil in this verse means let fall; make self a prey. Wow! He will not fall prey to things that are out in this world if his heart is safely tucked away with his wife. Can your husband trust you to love him no matter what happens? Can your children see truth in your life? Read I Corinthians 13. What are the meaning of these words?

Suffereth long:

Kind:

Envieth(envy):

Vaunteth:

Puffed up:Unseemly:

Seeketh not her own:

Provoked:

Thinketh no evil:

Rejoiceth:

Iniquity:

Beareth:

Believeth:

Hopeth:

Endureth:

Now read the chapter again, but with a greater understanding of the type of love that you must show in order for your husband to entrust you with his heart. If you love your famil as the scripture says, it would be very hard for them to fall prey to the enemy. The devil is as a roaring lion seeking someone to devour, but if you submit yourself to God, you can overcome and your family will be more likely to overcome the temptations of this world.

Read Proverbs 31:12 What good can you do for your husband?

Now read verse 13 Do you willingly do things for your family? I have to admit, I sometimes have a hard time doing laundry or dishes willingly! Do you find clothes at a bargain or do you frivolously spend on trinkets? Are you willing to do you laundry or do you throw the clothes away and get more? Seriously, I knew a lady who did this! What are some ways you can work willingly with your hands?

Read verse 14. Like the merchant’s ships? Bringeth food from afar off? A merchant would trade and sell many things to and from other places. His ship would carry things of value to and from country and city. A merchant wanted his goods to be of value so he could sell them and make a name for his business. He wanted to make the customer happy. Do you try your provide the best for your family, or do you throw things together and hope everyone doesn’t complain? I am so guilty of cutting corners. While working at school full time, I have no time (excuses) to cook the best, so I have compromised. Hot dogs, pre-fab chicken patties, you name it. My daughter had been getting sick; so sick she was losing a lot of weight. I took her to several doctors and tried many things, but to no avail. I began to wonder if it was all the processed food I was feeding my family. I began cooking from scratch and my daughter has gotten much better! What areas do you need to improve so that you can give your family the best?

 
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Posted by on April 30, 2012 in Bible Studies

 

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A Beam in my Eye

One morning, during my sporadic prayer time, I was aking God about a situation in a friend’s life. I could see that her family was being torn apart and tried. I also had the answer for her; I knew exactly what she needed to do in her trial. I wasn’t sure how to speak the truth in love.

While asking God how to tell a friend the answer to her problems, I began to flip through the Bible. Now, I don’t just flip and, ta-da, find the perfect verse but this time God wanted my attention, and there it was! God had a Word for my dilemma…Luke 6:41-42. “And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s (sister’s) eye, but perceivest not the beam that is in thine own eye?” BUSTED! What could I say? This was for me…read on, though, it gets better. “Either how canst thou say to thy brother (sister), Brother, let me pull out the mote that is in thine eye, when thou thyself beholdest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite…” Whoa! Me? A hypocrite? Yep. Looks like it through God’s eye.

Boy, that hurt, but not as bad as it would have I went to my friend and tried to pull out the mote from her eye. No telling what I would have pulled out, considering I couldn’t see around the beam in mine own eyes! What a mess I would have made. When the blind lead the blind, they both fall in the ditch. That is Luke 6:39…just a few verses before the beam in the eye verses! Thank God I sought His Word before falling in the ditch with my friend. This way, I fell in the ditch by myself and no one knew. God helped me out and all is well.

Oh! The beam in my eye is taken care of; judgementalness. Hmmmm. Maybe I can stay out of the ditch!

Need answers anyone? Ask Jesus!

 
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Posted by on April 27, 2012 in Learning through Life

 

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Choose You This Day

There are so many choices that bombard us on a daily basis that we can become overwhelmed, causing frustrations to mount.  Many times, the choices we make will affect not only ourselves, but those closest to us.  The opinion of others places unnecessary stress on individual situations.  To be or not to be is a matter of opinion.

How can we get past the judgement of others and make the right decisions for our families?  One way is to take everything to God in prayer.  The only One we should ever be concerned about impressing is Jesus.  He knows our tomorrows and He can lead us in the direction that is best suited for us and those around us.  Many times others may place doubts in our minds about the decisions made.  This causes the build up of undue stress.

God has given us a road map to life.  The Bible has everything we need to equip us concerning the day-to-day decisions that come our way.  There are times when we seek help from friends that we may trust, but the choice is ultimately ours.  The consequences of every choice falls on the one who makes the decision, so why should not the choice be only left to the individual?

 

 

 
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Posted by on March 13, 2012 in Learning through Life

 

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Reach the World!

I am excited to hear about some area churches reaching out to those who need hope and help.  There is a lost and dying world who needs healing and we have the Good News.  Sharing the Gospel with one soul a day, a week, a month is a great way to reach the world.

There are so many evangalizing tools it can be overwhelming, but all you need is your testimony.  Tell someone who Jesus is and what He has done for you.  Get excited because God loves you.  Go reach your world!

 
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Posted by on March 13, 2012 in Soulwinning

 

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